I decided to explore some Ted Talks that could benefit both myself and others who are also fighting an internal battle that effects their degree of positivity, motivation, and confidence. These are five speeches that I found to be very influential in the way that they made me look at life in a different light. I felt the need to share them with you all so that you too can feel moved by them.
The first one is called “The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong” by Amy Morin
Morin describes 3 kinds of destructive beliefs and how they hold us back, take away our mental strength, and make us dissatisfied with life. They are:
- Unhealthy beliefs about ourselves
- Unhealthy beliefs about others
- Unhealthy beliefs about the world
She explains each one of these in detail and states that you must give up bad mental habits in order to become mentally strong. She shares with the audience a series of devastating events that happened to her within a short span of time but emphasizes that one can choose to think about even troubling situations in a positive light.
The biggest piece of advice I got from listening to this Ted Talk is as follows: Always hold out hope that life can get better whenever it feels like you are stuck in a state of despair because it is never a permanent predicament. Life has its ways of testing our strength, however, each thing thrown our way only serves to make us an even stronger person. Thus, it is up to you what you want to make of an unfavorable situation and you have the power to choose to use the experience in a constructive manner. Also, something else that is important to note is that you need to learn to be comfortable with your feelings and allow them to come and go naturally instead of trying to escape them when they arise. Experiencing emotions is a part of life, given how they are essential to forming human connections. As a result, we must embrace them, both the good and the bad.
The second Ted Talk is called “Getting Stuck in the Negatives (and How to Get Unstuck)” by Alison Ledgerwood.
Ledgerwood, a social psychologist, explains the cycle of thinking and why failure seems to stick in our minds a lot longer than success. After conducting a series of experiments with groups of participants, she discovered a pattern in how people think and everything became a lot clearer. She ends her speech with suggestions of healthy mental exercises that you should do regularly in which will help you to practice a healthy mindset.
The number one thing I learned from her lecture is that we should choose to think of things as a gain instead of a loss in order to avoid the struggle of trying to reverse a negative mindset. Even if a situation seems to be all-bad, look a little deeper and find the good that can come out of it. Take that good and use it as fuel to better yourself for the future.
The third Ted Talk is called “The Skill of Self Confidence” by Dr. Ivan Joseph
Dr. Joseph explains that getting rid of negative self-talk and replacing it with repetition of your positive qualities is how you can build self-confidence. He reminds the audience that thoughts influence actions therefore, you should acknowledge and focus on the good in yourself and soon enough you will start accomplishing a lot more in all areas of your life.
He also suggested to write a letter to yourself during a time where you’re feeling good and list everything about yourself that you are proud of. That way, when you are feeling down, you can you can take it out to read as a reminder of all your strengths. If you ignore what people do wrong and build them up for their successes instead, you are providing the environment that’s needed for positive self-growth. Do the same for yourself. Reinforce the good things you do and pay no attention to your faults, as dwelling on them will do you no good.
Dr. Joseph ends with a powerful statement his son said to him: “Self-confident people interpret feedback the way they choose to.” You are the pilot of your own life; you can choose to live it however you want to.
The forth Ted Talk is called “The Psychology of Self-Motivation” by Scott Geller
Geller illustrates how you can inspire others and yourself to be self-motivated. This is also known as feeling empowered. He lists and describes four c words that fuel self-motivation and it all starts with feeling competent. To illustrate his reasoning for choosing these worlds, he ends with a story about learning how to play the drums and uses that scenario to show all four things being actively employed.
One thing that really stuck with me is his description of the difference in mindset of success seekers v.s failure avoiders. When in school, most of us say we need to go to class because it’s a requirement but not many view it as an opportunity to learn and expand their knowledge. This goes right back to the healthy mindset Ledgerwood described above as being important to have when going through life.
And the last Ted Talk is called “Conquering Depression: How I Became my Own Hero” by Hunter Kent
These are words of wisdom coming from a high school senior. She tells her story about her battle with depression, self-harm, and suicidal ideation. One of the ways she tried to cope with her illness was by creating an anonymous Instagram account where she could reach out to others who are also struggling with depression. Now she uses it to post encouraging quotes for her 3,000 followers.
It wasn’t until her parents forced her into a three-week summer leadership program that she learned how to overcome her illness. At first she was furious about having to do it but after a few days, she began to find a sense of community in those that were also enrolled in the program and felt extremely loved and cared about. Hunter mustered up enough courage to share with them her entire life story and contrary to what she feared, it brought them even closer. This is when it finally hit her that she didn’t have to live with depression for the rest of her life; that she could be free from it if she chose to, and so she did.
I thought that her story was truly inspirational and compelling so I encourage you to listen to it firsthand. Just as she concluded with, having support from others really does make all the difference. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help, there are always people who are willing to assist you.
I highly suggest you watch these 5 Ted Talks, it will only take an hour of your time.
Healthy mindset = healthy living!
∼ Taylor ♥ xoxo